Choosing your life’s partner: a challenging but possible decision
Life is full of choices and decisions to take. Some decisions and choices are easy to take than others. For example, the choice of what clothes to wear is not as difficult or important as the choice of what program to study at the university or the choice of where to work.
The decisions we make can dictate the steps we take in the future; steps to a glorious future with God, or steps to destructive future. The greatest and most challenging part in decision’s making lays in the hand of the one who decides.
Some decisions need to be taken seriously. To choose a life’s partner (husband or wife) needs a lot of precautions, because as an old expression in my own language says: “He who misses a good wife (or partner) misses his riches” and the Bible says in Pro 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD”.
The Bible gives us some criteria that everyone who wants to have a life’s partner should think about.
Genesis 24 talks about how Abraham sent his servant Eliezer to find a wife to his son Isaac. In this story we can see some criteria that can help us to make the right choice or to see if we made already the right choice.
1. Gen 24: 4 ..thou shalt go unto my country…….
Abraham wanted his servant to go to find a woman in his own country and nation. This has to be understood as the country or the nation of the Lord, what means that we need to choose our life’s partner in the house of God. It is not necessary that the two partners have to be from the same “physical country” but they all have to be sons and daughters of God. Galatians 3:28 says “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus” That is a very important point for every believer, God asks us to find our partners in His family.
This will create a harmony at home because the two partners understand the things at least with the Christian mind. When problems come, the partners for life can trust and use the word of God to solve their problems and the Holy Spirit will help them to have the same understanding (Phil 3:15-16)
2. Gen 24:8 …. only bring not my son thither again.
Abraham was blessed in Canaan and He saw the mighty hand of God there. In fact he realized that leaving Canaan was equal to be without the presence of God. He didn’t want anything to bring his son out of the presence of God.
Your life’s partner must be someone who will not bring you out of the presence and the blessings of God. Beware of whom you walk with; some missed their blessings because of bad companions. A so called partner who doesn’t want you to be in the presence of God is not worthy your trust.
3. Gen 24:14 …. and she shall say, Drink
A life’s partner must be someone who knows to quench the thirst of his partner. In fact, it must be someone who fits the missing part in you, someone who doesn’t want to receive only but someone who is willing to give. The Bible says in Acts 20:35 “…It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Blessings don’t come only by asking but they also come by giving.
A life’s partner has also to be an active person, not someone who needs to sit down and see everything done for him. Laziness is one of the main causes of quarrel in a home. But every good life’s partner doesn’t seek for his own interest but the common one.
4. Gen 24:14, and I will give thy camels drink also
Camels had a great importance in that time. They were like ship of the desert.
A life’s partner has to be the one who is able to support you even when you are going through the wilderness, someone who cares for you not only when things go right but even when things turn wrong. He or She must be someone who can walk with and for you in the desert and who can help you to fight your common life’s battle. Songs of Solomon 8:5 says:” Who is this that cometh up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved?” This person can be called your life’s partner.
The partner of your life must be someone who loves you and cares for your ministry and calling, if you are called to be a minister. He or She must understand that you have some sheep to feed (John 21:15-17) and that as a partner he or she will be there helping you to do the work of God.
Beauty is not the only thing to consider when you choose your partner for life. God leads in every detail of our lives.A life's partner who is not according to His will as shown by His Word and the leading of His Servant, The Holy Spirit (The servant Eliezer stands here for the Holy Spirit), will not be blessed of Him.
God bless you!!!!
Fleury
The decisions we make can dictate the steps we take in the future; steps to a glorious future with God, or steps to destructive future. The greatest and most challenging part in decision’s making lays in the hand of the one who decides.
Some decisions need to be taken seriously. To choose a life’s partner (husband or wife) needs a lot of precautions, because as an old expression in my own language says: “He who misses a good wife (or partner) misses his riches” and the Bible says in Pro 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD”.
The Bible gives us some criteria that everyone who wants to have a life’s partner should think about.
Genesis 24 talks about how Abraham sent his servant Eliezer to find a wife to his son Isaac. In this story we can see some criteria that can help us to make the right choice or to see if we made already the right choice.
1. Gen 24: 4 ..thou shalt go unto my country…….
Abraham wanted his servant to go to find a woman in his own country and nation. This has to be understood as the country or the nation of the Lord, what means that we need to choose our life’s partner in the house of God. It is not necessary that the two partners have to be from the same “physical country” but they all have to be sons and daughters of God. Galatians 3:28 says “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus” That is a very important point for every believer, God asks us to find our partners in His family.
This will create a harmony at home because the two partners understand the things at least with the Christian mind. When problems come, the partners for life can trust and use the word of God to solve their problems and the Holy Spirit will help them to have the same understanding (Phil 3:15-16)
2. Gen 24:8 …. only bring not my son thither again.
Abraham was blessed in Canaan and He saw the mighty hand of God there. In fact he realized that leaving Canaan was equal to be without the presence of God. He didn’t want anything to bring his son out of the presence of God.
Your life’s partner must be someone who will not bring you out of the presence and the blessings of God. Beware of whom you walk with; some missed their blessings because of bad companions. A so called partner who doesn’t want you to be in the presence of God is not worthy your trust.
3. Gen 24:14 …. and she shall say, Drink
A life’s partner must be someone who knows to quench the thirst of his partner. In fact, it must be someone who fits the missing part in you, someone who doesn’t want to receive only but someone who is willing to give. The Bible says in Acts 20:35 “…It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Blessings don’t come only by asking but they also come by giving.
A life’s partner has also to be an active person, not someone who needs to sit down and see everything done for him. Laziness is one of the main causes of quarrel in a home. But every good life’s partner doesn’t seek for his own interest but the common one.
4. Gen 24:14, and I will give thy camels drink also
Camels had a great importance in that time. They were like ship of the desert.
A life’s partner has to be the one who is able to support you even when you are going through the wilderness, someone who cares for you not only when things go right but even when things turn wrong. He or She must be someone who can walk with and for you in the desert and who can help you to fight your common life’s battle. Songs of Solomon 8:5 says:” Who is this that cometh up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved?” This person can be called your life’s partner.
The partner of your life must be someone who loves you and cares for your ministry and calling, if you are called to be a minister. He or She must understand that you have some sheep to feed (John 21:15-17) and that as a partner he or she will be there helping you to do the work of God.
Beauty is not the only thing to consider when you choose your partner for life. God leads in every detail of our lives.A life's partner who is not according to His will as shown by His Word and the leading of His Servant, The Holy Spirit (The servant Eliezer stands here for the Holy Spirit), will not be blessed of Him.
God bless you!!!!
Fleury
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